Selective tone-deafness
I recently realized that there are some people I just can’t communicate easily with. They’re generally people I like (on reflection, the group probably includes people I’ve dated) and yet somehow I’m continually (unintentionally) stepping on their metaphorical toes.
If this was one or two people, I’d want to blame it on them (over-sensitive). If it was everyone (and it’s not) I could blame myself (socially inept). But it’s neither, so there must be a more sophisticated reason.